No one chooses to fail and so everyone is afraid of failure at some time of another and at some stage in their lives. That’s completely normal and nothing to concer yourself about. For some however this fear is far far greater and so intense that it stops them from doing the things that will help them along the road to achieving their goals.
In other words, the fear of failure causes you to sabotage the chances to succeed because it stops you from havig a go in the first place! It’s basically a huge obstacle that stands in front of all of your goals.
As with most of these specific phobias the fear of failure has an official name – it’s called atychiphobia.
Beat Your Fear Of Failure
You know what you need to do – maybe it’s something to do with your career development or career change. Perhaps it’s something to do with your personal life or happiness. Something is holding you back though. You feel powerless to make the move or take the required actions because of those thoughts of “what happens if it goes wrong?” or “you can’t do that – you’re bound to mess it up” or “you’ve go no chance – there’s people out there much better than you!”
This fear of failure causes such intense worries that you think, what’s the point and give up before you even have a go! What a sad way to be – imagining the worst-case scenarios that may or may not happen to you. Therefore increasing the odds of failing or giving up and let the fear stop you from moving forward and achieving your goals.
Fear of failure is a common condition that most people experience at least a few times in the course of their life. It’s actually the number 1 blocker to success for most people.
It’s perhaps not a completely irrational fear though. When you think about it we all play over the possible consequences of major decisions or actions before we take them. And, we’re all a little scared of moving outside our comfort zone aren’t we! For most of us though we look at the positives … the best outcome which is usually worth trying for. Anyone witha fear of failure will look at it in reverse. They’ll take the worst case scenario and decide it’s not worth the risk! That means confidence is low, you’re expecting to fail and so … guess what … you do! And that can stop us from even thinking of a change in direction or advancement in life. Thus a viscious circle starts to form and the condition deteriorates and you become frustratedly stuck in a rut and unable to progress in any part of your life.
It’s interesting to see the connection between the fear of failure and shame because of the fact that the fear of failure it’s practically fear of shame. People with a fear of failure avoid failing not because they cannot handle the emotions that come with this like disappointment, frustration or anger but because they want to avoid the deep shame they will feel if they don’t succeed. Shame it’s categorized as a toxic emotion because it makes us feel bad about ourselves, what we are, instead of feeling bad about our efforts or actions. The nature of shame makes those with a fear of failure to avoid the phycological implications of a potential failure. Shame manages to get to the core of our identity, ego, self-esteem.
Causes Of Atychiphobia
There are numerous causes for the fear of failure – the most common ones are listed below:
- Childhood pattern: Having hypercritical, unsupportive parents cause children to have damaging mindsets that can lead to a fear of failure.
- Perfectionism: For perfectionists’ failure can be so humiliating and terrifying that they don’t even want to try.
- Lack of self-confidence: A person with low or inexistent self-confidence it’s scared of failure and avoids risks as much as possible.
- Ego: Some people over-identify with failure and don’t see the other things that can cause a failure like an experience, the quality of the effort, certain circumstances.
- The perfectionism of others: There are certain people in our lives that can impose their perfectionism on us. They want us to be perfect and they reflect their desire on us, making us work hard to meet their expectation.
- Past failures: If you failed in the past and that lead to important consequences like losing your job.
Symptoms Of The Fear Of Failure
Not everyone will experience the fear of failure in the same way. You can have symptoms from mild to extreme and they are physical or emotional, triggered especially when you think about certain situations in which you fail.
From the category of physical symptoms, you may experience some of the following:
- fast heart rate
- difficulties when breathing
- pain in your chest
- digestive problems
The emotional symptoms include:
- feeling anxiety or panic
- the need to escape a situation that produces your fear
- reluctance to try new things
- feeling powerless over fear
- self-sabotage your efforts
- low self-esteem
- feeling that you have lost the control
- thinking that you may die
The treatment’s individual for each person and should be done after a proper diagnosis. They are different types of treatment such as:
- Psychotherapy: A specialist the the field of cognitive behavioral therapy that has the tools to help you deal and cure your fear of failure.
- Medication: There’s no majic pill! Medication is rarely and used only as short-term solutions and only help manage the symptoms of any acompanying anxiety or panic.
- Lifestyle changes: Certain mindfulness exercises can help you with this fear. They include relaxation techniques, such as deep breathes or yoga. Regular exercises can also help you.
- Hypnotherapy: This can really help in resetting the brains natural response to opportunities. Can prove extremely effective.
We recommend the Overcome Fear of Failure program. This is an audio hypnosis session that will help you escape the negative impact of this condition.
Simply download to any device or to the free app and, as you relax and listen repeatedly to your download, you’ll experience a profound change taking place within you. You’ll feel more positive, more confident and the fear of failure will no longer hold you back: